We have 4 children...4 beautiful girls. If we want to have more, it is no one's business. We probably aren't but that is beside the point. We aren't on any public assistance, we pay taxes and we take care of our children so no one is constantly "helping " us . Since when did children start being looked upon as a burden? God says that children are a blessing and a heritage...He says nothing about a burden. An elderly gentleman came up to me in Walmart and asked about Rebekah. He told me he had 15 grandchildren and how much of a blessing each one was. It was such a blessing for me to hear that!
It shouldn't bust anyone's ego that we have ANOTHER girl. It doesn't matter that it is OK that she is a girl because she could be the mother of the next Billy Graham. Just because I got pregnant when I shouldn't have been able to doesn't make Sarah and Rebekah "probably a gift (they are all gifts!). Talking about me using birth control, me getting my tubes tied, trying to convince me to get my tubes tied because your wife never had problems, and about my husband getting a vasectomy is OFF LIMITS! It is my uterus and my husband's penis, it is our marriage and our children...so...say it with me now... IT IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS! Comparing leaving your family size up to God with Him taking your desire to overeat away is disgusting and just shows how little this world thinks of children.
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Totally agree, I know exactly what you mean, i have 5 daughters!!
Hi there ~
I totally agree with you! I read your question about being Quiverfull if your hubby is not! Yes, you can be..or should I say YES you are!
I have 6 kiddos. The first 4 all boys, then 2 girls. After our 5th baby,and it was a girl everyone was in shock that we had another.
They said, I thought you were done now that you finally had your girl.
People and family can be RUDE and hurtful.
I use no form of birth control, my husband on the other hand pulls out.(Not exactly biblical)But we are working on it. I am quiverfull and he teeters,sometimes he does give me some seed. He knows I would like more children and that I can and will get pregnant if the Lord wants me to.
I am still breastfeeding so that helps with the spacing.
My husband is respectful of my wishes and I understand his teetering...he is the provider and he has stresses at work. As his wife I pray with him to calm his mind and remind him Gods incharge.
If I were to get pregnant again he would be happy. When he gives me his SEED he does so freely. I do not nag or such to make him feel less than a good husband, because he is not 100% quiverfull. I needed to learn pacience,and how to be a good wife in all of this.
We are at a good place with it all right now.
I have coached my husband in private to his responces to others prods.and noseyness, I tell him how much it hurts me,when others stick there nose in and you agree and openly talk about the subject.(He does not do this to me anymore)I told him it made me feel ganged up on. I know where he and I stood on the matter and if was painful enough that we didn't agree but more so when other became aware of the friction. I told my hubby that he had the power to SHUT those people up. He could shut to whole conversation down by politly telling others "ITS between my wife and I".
I hope this helps!
My hubby and I are in a good place and our relationship is even stronger.
Peace in Christ,
Georgiann
Hi April. I found your blog on Georgiann's site. Large families are such an inspiration to me. I myself am the last of six children.
We have 3 daughters and recently in April I had a miscarriage. Now all I can do is hope and pray for another (but we are older - just turned 40). For many years after our 3rd we postponed pregnancy (we use NFP). I have a hard time now not regretting that decision. We had some good reasons but I've come to realize many were selfish.
I agree that it's totally your own private business between the two of you and God. Unfortunately people say some really rude things. ...but being humble in the moment and standing strong is really all you can do. Besides a couple of comments on blogs I don't want to tell people we are trying for another because they have opinions about our age, the age gap after our 3rd, and who knows what, so I keep it private.
You probably don't hear it enough but you are an example to so many people just by being the family you are! The many kind souls probably just don't get the opportunity to tell you. It's the pesky ones that open their mouth :)
Hi April~
I had a question about the Halloween cerimony?
Could you come answer over at my blog on the same thread you commented before?,that way my readers can read your answer to the question I had? It sounded like a cool cerimony?
Peace in Christ,
Georgiann
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